THE POWER OF ACCEPTANCE
There is very little that better describes the acceptance in addiction treatment as a pivotal, core, or hardcore principle in recovery. At the beginning their is no acceptance that life is unmanageable. There is no acceptance that I can’t continue using successfully. Acceptance in addiction treatment is everything at first.
“And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation — some fact of my life — unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
“Nothing, absolutely nothing (nada) happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.” BB pg 417, 4th edition
There are no accidents! Your recovery is a brand new beginning for you. Your time in recovery is your time for you. It is an utter fresh start. Serenity began when I learned to distinguish between those things that I could change and those I could not. When I admitted (#step1) that there were people, places, things, and situations over which I was totally powerless, those things began to lose their power over me! I learned that everyone has the right to make their own mistakes, and learn from them (#step3), without my interference, judgement, or assistance. WTF! Acceptance in addiction treatment is a non brainer.
The key to my serenity is acceptance in addiction treatment. But “acceptance in addiction treatment” does not mean that I have to like it, condone it, or even ignore it. What it does mean is I am powerless to do anything about it… and I have to accept that fact. Nor does it mean that I have to accept “unacceptable behaviour.” Today I have choices.
I no longer have to accept abuse in any form. I can choose to walk away, even if it means stepping out into the unknown. I no longer have to fear change or the unknown. I can merely accept it as part of the journey. I spent years trying to change things in my life over which I was powerless, but did not know it. Unaware! I threatened, scolded, manipulated, coerced, pleaded, begged, pouted, bribed and generally tried everything I could to make the situation better through force — only watch as things always got progressively worse. I spent so much time trying to change the things I could not change, it never once occurred to me to simply accept them as they were.
Now when things in my life are not going the way I planned them, or downright bad things happen, I can remind myself that whatever is going on is not happening by accident. There’s a reason for it, a purpose will come, and it is not always meant for me in my humility to know what that reason is. That change in attitude has been the key to happiness for me, as it can be for you too. I know I am not the only who has found that courage, that wisdom, that serenity.
Acceptance in addiction treatment is an opening of your heart to the realities of life and to the ways in which you have been impacted by your life choices. It means you don’t fight against the realities of your life, but accept them for what they are and use them to grow as a person and move forward in life. It’s a major part of becoming a better person emotionally and spiritually and it can serve as a huge boost in recovery.
No less an expert in healing than Deepak Chopra had this to say about acceptance: “Nothing brings down walls as surely as acceptance.” These beautiful words can serve as a milestone for mastering the art of acceptance. It isn’t about actively fighting your life’s circumstances, but allowing the river of life to flow through you.
If that sounds a little too New Age for your taste, just think of acceptance as a way to forgive yourself for the problems caused by your drug addiction. You’ll no longer be agonizing over the mistakes you made, the people you hurt, and the so-called failures that you feel were caused by your addiction. With acceptance, you can forgive yourself for these concerns and heal your heart.
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